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Read This if You Hate Humans Sometimes

I was sitting in traffic this morning frustrated at EVERYTHING I was experiencing. I had so many people to blame for me spending my days doing things I did not enjoy. The MAN was to blame for me having to go to a job I find tedious in the first place. The inconsiderate drivers were the reason it was taking me so long to get to work. The idiot city planners who decided to shut down the most congested parts of the freeway in the most crowded part of the city were to blame for the road conditions that made the inconsiderate drivers even more inconsiderate. As I pondered over how stupid and inconsiderate everyone was, I let myself take it a step further and think about all the reasons several friends and family members were falling short and making my life less enjoyable. Then I started thinking about how much humans just suck and I wish I could live on a different planet.

Rewind to about 5 or 6 days ago when I did a video for you guys on my YouTube channel saying not to let negative thoughts pile on top of each other.....this is why 😊. I had reached a dark, dark place. So I decided in that moment to take my own advice and figure out a way to stop the momentum because no one I was blaming for all my troubles was suffering. In fact, I would bet that many of them are enjoying their lives a lot more than I was in that moment. Before I decided to shift my momentum in a different direction, I searched for misanthropy (the hatred of humans) on YouTube and found PLENTY of content. After watching 1 and ½ videos I was completely disgusted and realized how silly it was to have the attitude that the reason life is hard is because humans are awful....especially since I am a human. How naive would I have to be to believe that I wasn't just as disappointing.

Since the detour I took to try and avoid traffic had added 20 extra minutes to my commute so as to line up with my bad attitude 😉, I decided to listen to Tom Bilyeu to see if I could grab some wisdom that would shift me out of my negative spiral and into a more positive one. I came across a video titled "why you should stop saying what people want to hear". Since I had made the decision to "Let people have it" because "They're so awful". This sounded right up my alley. Inside, I set an intention to get a transformative message from it. Just as I was finally pulling up to my destination, the words from the guests mouth hit my like a ton of bricks. He said basically that you had to be the change you want to see. It was kind of unrelated to the main topic, but exactly what I needed to hear at that moment. I did a video about it on my YouTube Channel.

People were being a mirror for me. There was something in me that was inconsiderate either to myself or to others. There was part of me that was disappointing either myself or others. I was focused externally and being exactly the kind of person I was pushing against mentally and emotionally. Then I began to think about people who put forth extra effort to create beautiful experiences for me and how I could be more like them. If I turned all that energy inward and focused on how to create beautiful energy, I wouldn't have the mental space to think about all the ways I was disappointed. If I spent my time perfecting who I am being, the energy that surrounds me would have to fall in line with that. And if EVERYONE took on the attitude that we need to be the change we seek, imagine what a beautiful world this would be.

If you are reading this and you hate humans...just make a slight shift and look inward and examine how you feel about YOU. Everyone else is giving you the gift of reflecting that back to you and as your attitude about you shifts, your attitude about others will inevitably do the same. It's a law of nature.

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